Zaldy Bueno’s exceptional skill of optimism made him resilient and hopeful and eventually the Happiest Pinoy 2019 contest victor.
His life was hard. His life was sad. But all these led him to the better life he deserves now.
And if you too wish to be like Zaldy, here are 5 things to keep in mind and who knows, you can turn out to be the same – a happy, successful and happy Pinoy!
1 Making Sense Out of Your Difficulties
Traumatic life events bring the most challenging moments in life. But we can always look at it as an opportunity to experience the most personal growth in their lives. But we’re guessing it doesn’t sound all that radical to you. Many of us relate to our challenges this way, and while we shouldn’t wish trauma or suffering upon ourselves, it’s easy to see how our most painful moments of grief, sadness, sickness, or pain shape who we are.
Think about the hardest thing you are going through right now. In a year, how might you feel about it? What will it teach you?
Zaldy didn’t allow the difficulties pin him down. He pinned life challenges down and won over it. It was indeed hard and anyone will be amazed by his resilience.
2 Optimism Brings a Peace of Happiness Amidst Tribulations
Happy, successful, optimistic people are not exempt from the trials and tribulations of life. In fact, some of the happiest, most successful and optimistic people I know have had to overcome unbelievably difficult circumstances to get to where they are today. But what they all have in common is their uncanny ability to shift their focus to a higher part of themselves.
Zaldy didn’t have the happiest childhood. But he never complained. He was still just a kid and if let sadness devour him, he would have been depressed and won’t be able to become the Happiest Pinoy today.
They allow themselves to temporarily step away from those moments that are bringing them down or are causing them pain and immediately begin to focus on aspects of their lives that bring them joy and lift their spirits. They feel blessed for the things that life has given them rather than curse the things life has denied them or the unwanted things life is throwing at them.
They find the laughter during tough times and sometimes even during the worst times. But they don’t just put on blinders and ignore that they are going through a difficult time—they instinctively know when to shift their mindsets to something that will put them on a more productive path. In reality, we all have the power to do this. And it’s what I call a “power shift in focus.”
3 Staying Positive Helps You Cope With Any Challenge
You can’t stop life from throwing stuff at you. You can’t stop the unexpected from interfering with your goals and dreams. But you can choose how to respond. You can always choose to shift to a healthier state of mind when unwanted things happen.
Zaldy had to start working at a young age, drop out of school twice, experience sleeping at the side of the road, but he never thought that life is unfair. Like he said during his speech when he received his Happiest Pinoy 2019 trophy, we should just hang on, because one day, “we will smile as victors.”
People who are happy, successful and optimistic know that, no matter what happens, life still goes on and they can choose to focus on things that empower them. They refuse to give up their right to enjoy life. And guess what? So can you.
A power shift in focus, even if only for a very few moments, can have a profound effect on how you cope with any challenge and help you understand the great duality of life. In other words, you can’t know true peace until you’ve experienced chaos. You can’t know joy unless you’ve felt pain. Conversely, no matter how many tears may fall, there is still room for a smile, and even laughter. You must experience one end of the emotional spectrum to fully appreciate the other. A power shift in focus is a skill that nourishes your soul and significantly changes how you view life. It can be improved with practice and is a key to creating a happy life for yourself.
So practice a power shift in focus. Temporarily step away from those moments that are bringing you down and focus on aspects of yourself that lift you up.
4 Hope Won’t Disappoint You One Day. I will Challenge You To Be Successful
Just because you failed in your endeavors or things didn’t go your way it doesn’t mean that you should stop trying. You can’t just say that you WILL fail every time. You really can’t predict your future like that. You really can’t decide in a blink that everything will always go downhill from here. It will only happen if you choose to make it that way.
Just like Zaldy who was in multiple life challenges, we too should not lose hope and see these “lemons” as motivations to do better in life.
When you have hope and keep working towards your dreams, you keep the chance of achieving them higher than not doing anything at all. Believing in yourself and hoping for the best makes a huge difference in your attitude and your attitude will reflect on your work and attract positivity.
Sure there will be a lot of times when you are sad, angry, upset and you are allowed to, it’s completely natural and healthy. But when it gets to the point when you aren’t excited about anything and hopeless about everything in your life, that’s when you need to take charge and bring yourself back on track with the help of hope.
5 Empathy Leads Us to Greater Cause
Zaldy reminds us that much of our strength as humans lies in our shared struggle, in our ability to connect and know that we’re not alone in our mistakes and faults, and see the light in each other despite all of it. When he organized PADYAK, it was very obvious that his heart goes for students who are having difficulties in coming to school. Since he faced the same problems when he was a kid, he wants to give a better opportunity to other children.
Here’s an important reminder:
If we're going to find our way back to each other, we have to understand and know empathy, because empathy's the antidote to shame. If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three things to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence and judgment. If you put the same amount in a petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can't survive. The two most powerful words when we're in struggle: me too.
Shame is the ultimate villain in our quest to move forward after pain or trauma. It tricks us into thinking that we somehow deserve our suffering, that we’re not worthy of love or healing. So if empathy is the antidote to shame, then empathy must be an essential piece of the puzzle when it comes to building resilience.
Get inspiration from your Happiest Pinoy. Learn from Zaldy on how to be optimistic, resilient and hopeful. And above all, on how to be happy!